Most people are giving their power away in all sorts of ways, and not only are they unaware of it happening—they’re unaware of how it inhibits their spiritual progress.

Learn what it means to give your power away, what it looks like, and how shifting this pattern is one of the most important steps on your spiritual journey.


•   To give your power away is to elevate another above yourself, to put another’s word above your own knowingness or intuition. Many do it with gurus, shamans, or mediums—teachers in the spiritual realm. It’s even implicit in little acts, like the creation of an altar. Many will put imagery of ascended masters or gurus on their altar, elevating them to a sacred status and therefore above themselves.

•   It also happens in everyday relationships: intimate partnerships, friendships, doctor/patient relationships. On spirit level, control and abuse patterns often lead to the creation of this dynamic or one person might just be stronger in terms of personality.

•   Those who give their power away tend to have porous spirit bodies which allows their energy to leak out and other people and things to more easily encroach in an unhealthy way. Other people’s emotional garbage can come in, and entities and other people can hook in as well.

•   As you clear distortion patterns around abuse and control, the walls of your spirit body will become smoother and more intact. Consequently, you’ll no longer feel the need to give your power away, and you’ll learn to better hold your space.  Your spirit body will become a space for just you, your higher self, and your connection to Pure Source.

•   Other people are in your reality, but they don’t need to be in your space. When you learn to hold your space, you’ll have more magnetic pull because you’re clear and bright, complete in and of yourself.

•   In relationships with others, it’s always helpful to ask yourself: Am I giving this person’s opinion more authority than my own instinct or intuition? If something doesn’t resonate or feel true to you—with a doctor, for example—consider getting a second opinion. Weight the counsel of others appropriately with your own knowingness, and assert your authority. This is a form of discipline, a way of practicing self-mastery.