Learn why it’s essential to be able to say no, how it helps us to hold our space on spirit level, and how it can propel us forward.


•   Many of us are taught that in order to be nice, we have to please everyone. Not true, and on spirit level this pattern of pleasing almost looks like self-abuse—like a person will sacrifice themselves in order to be pleasing.

•   The space within your spirit body belongs to you alone, your higher self, and your connection to Pure Source. That’s it. “No” is a boundary, and without boundaries around your spirit body, you’ll have a much harder time with saying no to things.

•   Women in particular are often expected—an expectation reinforced by family, culture, and religion—to take on the burdens of others. It’s difficult if not impossible for many women to say no, because the frequency distortions running through them require them to say yes.

•   We all came here to learn something—you can’t liberate others from their own journey. Taking on other people’s garbage won’t help them. It’ll weigh you down and do nothing to liberate those others from their own problems.

•   As you remove your distortion patterns, the more you’ll realize the sacredness of your own spirit body. You’ll feel the heaviness when someone tries to encroach on you, and you’ll want to hold your space. And you’ll feel more worthy of holding that space.

•   Your ability to say no shows your ability to hold your space on spirit level. A lot of people aren’t comfortable with being with someone else’s discomfort. How neutral can you be in the discomfort of someone’s reaction to your no? When you do the work and realize you’re worthy of holding this space, you won’t feel the need to make another person’s reaction your problem.

•   This is not about being mean or unkind and saying no to everyone without caring about the other person or negating everything all the time. This is about discernment about when to say no and being able to hold that boundary when required.