Expectations are the mind’s idea of how things, events, or people “should be.” Learn how expectations can cause resistance and slow us down—and how we can use them to strengthen.


•   Expectations are what the mind thinks it wants from an event or interaction, which can narrow your perception, limit the possibilities and remove the magic from your experience by taking you out of the present moment and into a mind-based reality that may be at odds with your current present reality.

•   The most powerful place to be excited is in the moment—while a thing is happening—as opposed to projecting your excitement into the future. Embracing curiosity and wonder about what might unfold, and saving excitement for when the event has arrived—this can save you from struggling with unmet expectations.

•   A natural consequence of frequency work is that you’ll feel less and less like you need to have a certain outcome. Removing distortion patterns allows you to embrace the beginner’s mind—full of wonder, curiosity, and openness—and become neutral on what can happen.

•   We often have specific expectations of people—ourselves and others—which are informed by distortion patterns from lineage, religion, and culture. So long as these distortion patterns are still governing our reality, thoughts and behavior, we (often unwittingly) strive to meet the external expectations of what we should do as defined by our familial or societal roles. When those expectations of what should be or should happen go unmet (whether by ourselves or others), feelings of anger, resentment, and self-loathing (where our own behavior is concerned) can arise.

•   We tend to have the most expectation around the people closest to us—we have a fixed idea of how they should be. As you do more frequency work, you’ll start to drop expectations around yourself and others. You can just be with others as opposed to maintaining a rigid mental construct of how they should be or behave.